Product Description

Have the Terrible Twos become the Terrifying Threes, Fearsome Fours, Frightening Fives, and beyond? Elizabeth Pantley, creator of the No-Cry revolution, gives you advice for raising well-behaved children, from ages 2 through 8

In The No-Cry Discipline Solution, parenting expert Elizabeth Pantley shows you how to deal with your child's behavior. Written with warmth but based in practicality, Elizabeth shows you how to deal with childhood's most common behavioral problems:

• Tantrums
• Sleep issues
• Backtalk
• Hitting, Kicking and Hair Pulling
• Sibling fights
• Swearing
• Dawdling
• Public misbehavior
• Whining ... and more!

"Pantley applies succinct solutions to dozens of everyday-problem scenarios--from backtalk to dawdling to lying to sharing to screaming--as guides for readers to fashion their own responses.
Pantley is a loving realist who has managed, mirabile dictu, to give disciplinarianism a good, warm name."
--Kirkus

"While many books on discipline theory are interesting and enlightening, parents often struggle finding a way to apply the theories. Pantley’s advice is practical and specific. If ever trapped on a desert island with a bunch of kids, this is among the most useful books you could bring along."
--Tera Schreiber, Mom Writer’s Literary Magazine

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Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #10804 in Books
• Published on: 2007-05-15
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 304 pages

Amazon.com Review
Disciplining children is arguably one of the hardest skills for parents to learn. As a parent herself, Elizabeth Pantley knows what a challenge it is to establish good discipline, and she shares the hard-won wisdom of her experience with parents in this latest edition to her revolutionary "no-cry" approach to parenting. In this case, we have no doubt she’s saving parents from tears, too! Elizabeth Pantley’s approach to this age-old problem is unique because she doesn’t rely on old discipline models that often make parents feel like the bad guy. Instead, she gives parents the communication tools they need to stop bad behavior in its tracks and gain a deeper understanding of what triggers a child to act out. Any parent will appreciate the focus on love and nurturing in this wholly practical and much-needed addition to the child care shelf.

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A Special Message from Elizabeth Pantley to Amazon.com Readers
As a mom of four, two boys and two girls, I know that raising children is a unique experience every day. Our children bring us a level of joy, and a depth of love, that nothing else in our history has prepared us for. They change us as human beings, and we can never go back to who we were before they entered our lives.

We love our children intensely, yet every day life with them can be challenging, frustrating and exhausting. All day, every day, there are so many things we must get our children to do--or stop from doing. Beginning with getting them out of bed in the morning, and ending with putting them to bed at night (and often, not even then), our job involves an incredible amount of organization, guidance, direction and connection. And all that requires a brilliance and stamina that we never knew we possessed, but somehow must find.

I spend my time surrounded by parents, children and families. I’ve worked with hundreds of "Test Parents" from all over the world during my book writing process. And of course, I have my very own "laboratory" in my home. So I have a very good idea of the top issues that all parents share. I research the best answers that support positive, nurturing, "No-Cry" parenting ideals and share those answers with my readers in my books.

I hope that I can help you to find the solutions to the parenting challenge that you are facing today.

Hugs,
Elizabeth

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For a live demonstration of Elizabeth Pantley’s approach to discipline, watch these three dynamic videos of Elizabeth Pantley discussing key principles from The No-Cry Discipline Solution. (Click on each image to launch the video.)

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From Publishers Weekly
The author of The No-Cry Sleep Solution returns with this guide to helping parents remain in control of their two-to -eight-year-olds. A child, Pantley points out, is emotion in motion. She provides a variety of techniques to help rein in out-of-control children, based on a four-part plan that corrects the current behavior, teaches a lesson, helps the child learn control and builds the relationship between the parent and child. Her techniques are not unusual, ranging from telling stories and giving timeout warnings to distractions and simply looking away (Every once in a while, the best thing you can do for family peace is to turn around, pretend you didn't see it, take a deep breath, and move on to something else). Where Pantley does break away from the parenting pack is explaining how parents can control themselves. Her suggestions won't be easy for parents to follow, but they make solid sense. The final part of the guide will be the most thumbed-through section: concrete advice for specific problems such as bossiness, sleep issues and sibling disagreements. Attachment parents as well as those looking for a gentle approach will appreciate the wisdom Pantley shares. (July)
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Review
“Another breakthrough title in the No-Cry series…let this book be your guide.” (Edmonton's Child )

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Customer Reviews

Discipline Ideas Gentle for both parents and kids
While Pantley doesn't actually promise that there will be no crying, the discipline suggestions she offers are gentle and consistent. The recommendations are geared toward helping parents achieve positive behavior with their children, but Pantley also helps parents cope with their children's misbehavior. Pantley writes a lengthy chapter on anger management for parents, which is unique among the piles of other discipline books on the shelf. For the anger management chapter alone, this book is worth a read. Nothing routinely makes us angrier and grouchier than the objects of our greatest affection - our children. It's easy to see how the management of parental anger can both help parents cope and help them better manage their children's behavior.

This book is brilliant in many respects. It offers parents a host of possible solutions to every problem rather than foisting a one-size-fits-all approach to the impossible task of discipline. To top it off, Pantley offers a summary of solutions to common discipline problems in an easy to look-up format in the back of the book. Parents will find this useful for those times when they worry that repeated, obnoxious behaviors will make them lose their minds.


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Creative techniques, but may not get to the meat
This book has lots of practical examples and techniques. "No-cry" is kind of a misnomer -- this is more about how to avoid tears when possible. Most of the techniques focus on giving children fair warning when transitions are coming and turning tough situations into fun and games so kids will be distracted into participating. There is an alphabetical list of specific issues in last part of the book that detail solutions for specific situations (e.g., "Won't get out of bath"). I also appreciate that she encourages parents to look at many sources for "bad" behavior -- how is their sleeping? Their nutrition?

I've tried a fair number of Pantley's suggestions and am impressed -- making things fun when changing diapers, brushing teeth, etc. sure are a lot easier than tears and threatening to take away toys. HOWEVER, sometimes the fun's over. Everything you're trying isn't working. Where do you go then? Pantley doesn't go that far...and sometimes the kids just don't buy the fun and games stuff ("Let's all pretend we're monkeys jumping into our car seats! YAYY!!!!"). I am reading "The Manipulative Child," and while my kids are generally pretty good, I like the authors' techniques that basically take the place of time outs, taking away toys or TV, sticker charts, and all that other stuff I had been trying. That book also focuses more on the "meat" of discipline issues -- how our responses to situations are also opportunities for our children to build their own self-worth and feel confident with their place in the world. Pantley's book is good, but doesn't delve into those issues.

Overall, I think Pantley's book is great and I generally try to do what she recommends -- it works in most cases, and when it doesn't, I turn to "Manipulative Child."

I LOVE this book!
I'm not often compelled to write a review, but I absolutely love this book. I've read a lot of books and articles on discipline, but I feel like I had a sort of break-through with my children after reading this one. I agree with the previous review which noted that the chapter on parental anger is perhaps the best part of the book. I honestly feel much more in control of my emotions and happier about parenting in general after reading this book. I am a big Elizabeth Pantley fan, but this book is my favorite of hers thus far.