LOVE this approach - still use it. If you're struggling with discipline at home, buy it 1-2-3 ! Set ups a system you can all turn to in a time of challenge. - Amy

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Product Description

Addressing the task of disciplining children ages 2 through 12 without arguing, yelling, or spanking, this program offers easy-to-follow steps to immediately manage troublesome behavior with reason, patience, and compassion. Parents and teachers learn how to encourage and respect children's growing independence with 10 strategies for building self-esteem. Also discussed are the three most important qualities for parents or teachers to exhibit in order to foster competence in kids. Tips are included on how to prevent homework arguments, make mealtimes more enjoyable, conduct effective family meetings, and encourage children to start doing their household chores. This award-winning program discusses the importance of establishing and maintaining a home or classroom with fair and consistent discipline. This revised edition includes suggestions on how to avoid over-parenting, build children's social skills, and apply the program within mental health agencies and classrooms.

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Product Details

• Amazon Sales Rank: #432 in Books
• Published on: 2004-02-01
• Original language: English
• Number of items: 1
• Binding: Paperback
• 224 pages

From Booklist
Previously available as a booklet in conjunction with a workshop and as a video, clinical psychologist Phelan's simple, effective child-management program has now been issued as a trade paperback. The gist of the plan is to enable parents to discipline children, ages 2 to 12, by instituting a system of counting and time-outs, delivered straightforwardly and unemotionally. How the regimen is used to stop undesirable behavior, stimulate desirable conduct, and cope with children's testing is conveyed in Phelan's candid style, filled with common sense, concrete examples, and lots of reassuring humor. Time-and parent-tested, the methods are applied in identifiable situations (pouting, bedtime, dressing) as well in the all-too familiar incidences of children testing and manipulating their elders. Best of all, the method enables parents to control their kids without yelling . . . or worse. In addition, Phelan covers homework, active listening, self-esteem, behavior in public, and the use of his method in schools. An excellent, workable, and supportive resource for parents and educators. Irene Wood

Review
If your child has begun to rule the roost a bit more than you'd like, this book provides a system to get your family operating smoothly. Especially sensible is Phelan's theory that children shouldn't be argued with endlessly to convince them to do what you want them to do. He also wisely points out the best way to get your child to repeat unwanted behavior is to have a highly emotional reaction to it. The plan is simple, and though it's not quite magic, it may feel like it is. -- Susan K. Perry, Ph.D., L.A. Parent Magazine, September 1999

This newly revised second edition provides a fine coverage of effective discipline choices to be used on children ages 1-12. From handling sibling rivalry and arguing to avoiding self-defeating syndromes and reactions, this covers everything from home to public behavior, providing parents with plenty of solid tips which work. -- Midwest Book Review

About the Author
Thomas W. Phelan, Ph.D., is a clinical psychologist with more than 25 years of experience working with children and families. He is the author of All About Attention Deficit Disorder, Surviving Your Adolescents, Self-Esteem Revolutions in Children, Adults with Attention Deficit Disorder, and "I Never Get Anything," the winner of the 2002 NAPPA Parenting Resources Gold Award. He lives in Glen Ellyn, Illinois.

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Customer Reviews

I liked
i did what the book said and my 2years old daughter still don't change her actitude, but she is doing less her scenes.

Thank you!
I feel like a better parent and a better person. The strategies described in this book worked for my 4 year old twins. My husband has stopped spanking because he has watched me and now we count bad behavior together.

little too old for my 2 yr old
good book for discipline but it is a little old for our 2 yr old. The issues are not ones that our young girl is ready for yet but it will help later.